Everyone is Talking
About the Oscars.
Why do I care?
Who doesn’t love a few extra movie recommendations?
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The Shape of Water won big with four of it’s whopping thirteen nominations. It took home Best Picture, Best Director, Best Original Music Score and Best Production Design. ICYMI, the movie is about a mute woman and a sea creature falling in love. Intriguing story line, no?
COCO won for Best Animated Feature and Original Song. We don’t know about you, but we big-puffy-heart (love) this film. It’s combines family, rich culture, traditions and lessons in forgiveness and acceptance. Huge win for family viewing and the music win was an added bonus.
Best Original Screenplay went to Get Out. We’ve seen and heard the buzz (99% on Rotten Tomatoes is no joke!) – but we don’t do scary here so you have fun with that. #noshame #fraidycats
What makes the Get Out win so epic is Jordan Peele, the mastermind behind the film. Jordan is only the third person in 90 years to be nominated for writing, directing and producing (his first film)! And, he’s the first black writer to win for Best Original Screenplay. Major kudos to him.
The Oscars tackled the political while keeping some of the fun. One favorite moment? When all of the Best Actress nominees hugged it out after not winning. Talk about class.
Put Your Best Foot Forward
Is self-loathing a part of your parenting style? Kristina Kuzmic talked to several moms about their negative self-talk and it was heart wrenching. The commonality among the group was they often felt like they were failing at life, they were effing up their kids, and jacking up this parenting gig.
Their struggles include guilt for not managing household tasks well, body image, and feeling like they aren’t a good enough mother for their kids.
Kristin goes on to show each woman a photo of themselves when they were little and asks them to repeat their negative self-talk to the girl in the photo. It’s a bit of a tear-jerker because who could speak to that little girl in that way? Noone.
Through the interviews, she encourages moms to think about how they might treat a fellow mom-friend. Would you say these same things to another mom? Of course not. We would never be so cruel.
The moms realize through the chat that their self-talk, when stacked up against the truth, isn’t accurate.
If you see yourself in all of this, flip the script. Treat yourself as you would treat your best friend. Give yourself grace, encouragement and more kindness. Remind yourself that you are enough for your kids. Make a conscious effort to eliminate that negative self-talk and overwrite those thoughts.
Psychologists suggest that you write out your negative messages on paper and look at each of those messages to actively counter them with ‘positive truths’ in your life. You could take it one step further and add regular positive affirmations into your self-talk. The affirmations can be as simple as repeating messages like: “I am resilient”, “I am strong”, “I am encouraging”. You can get more specific with your affirmations by saying, “Today I will be positive for myself and my kids” or “I am not the perfect mother, but I’m exactly the one my children need.”
Are you ready to flip the scrip on the self-loathing? We are too.
Hack it Up
The countdown is on to tax day, so if you’re not on it already, it’s time to get serious and gather all of those documents and make it happen. You can always go the DIY route, but if your taxes are complicated, you may want a professional so you avoid missteps that may make the IRS come knocking on our door. Some key points made:
- Do your research before hiring your tax professional. Ask friends for a referral, or go to one of the more well-known chains like H&R Block. If they seem too good to be true, they might be.
- Uncle Sam may scrutinize your taxes for a variety of things, but claiming your hobby expenses as business may be one of them. If you haven’t made money in three of the past five years, you might have a hobby on your hands and business deductions are a no-no.
- If you own a rental home and have a monthly loss associated with that rental you may not be able to deduct it. It’s considered a ‘passive loss’ in most cases, which isn’t a deduction.
- If you are running a legit business or freelancing for several clients and resolving to do better with your deductions next year, there’s an app for that.
You’ve got this.
Menu Planning Mastery
If you’ve always wondered the merits of meal delivery services, you’re not alone. Meal planning can be a thorn in the side, so anything that simplifies the process is a win in our book.
Sun Basket is another kit that meets special dietary needs. They offer Paleo, vegetarian and gluten free options with organic produce and responsibly sourced meat and seafood.
Most of these kits run around $60-$70 for three days covering two people. As you get up to the family plans, the price per meal comes down a bit. However, if your kids are still in the plain noodles and chicken nugget phase of their lives, go the route of a two person subscription. It will allow for your picky eaters to try new things, without spending the money to purchase a full meal they may not eat.
It’s O.K. to question your child’s teacher and bring your concerns to the administration, especially if they are leaning on the side of racist like the middle school teacher from Florida . She allegedly ran a white nationalist podcast and filtered some of her believes into her class lessons. She has since been removed from her post at Crystal River Middle School.
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