About a mom in Target who was carrying her daughter and was given some unsolicited advice.
Why Do I care?
The story, it turns out has far more depth than one might think, and it’s a lesson in thinking twice when we might consider giving unprompted ‘advice’ to new moms we don’t know.
Tell Me More.
Kelly Dirkes is the adopted mother of a little girl, who, for the first 10-months of her life lived in an orphanage – rarely touched, never comforted, and laid in her crib without interaction. So, with that in mind, when she chose to carry her daughter in a sling as she shopped at a Target last week, and a passerby felt the need to comment that she would “spoil” her baby and that her child would “never be independent”, she took to Facebook to write her feelings regarding that interaction. It has since had nearly nineteen thousand shares.
She writes in part, “If you only knew what her face looked like the moment her orphanage caregiver handed her to me to cradle for the very first time–fleeting moments of serenity commingled with sheer terror. No one had ever held her that way before, and she had no idea what she was supposed to do. If you only knew that she would lay in her crib after waking and never cry–because up until now, no one would respond…”Spoiling that baby” is the most important job I will ever have, and it is a privilege. I will carry her for a little while longer–or as long as she’ll let me–because she is learning that she is safe. That she belongs. That she is loved.”
There’s so much more to this poignant message, but, we’re pretty sure unsolicited advice should be banned from here until eternity. You never know anyone’s backstory. ’nuff said.
We’re gearing up for the summer camp at-home lifestyle, and this Laundry Basket Skeeball has our name all over it. It can be done with a few items around the house in a matter of minutes with the exception of a bag of those ball pit balls. You need a couple of empty cereal boxes and a regular shipping box along with two empty laundry baskets (rectangle, not tall) to make this happen. The laundry isn’t getting done anyway, right? The boxes will work to fashion together the ramp, and you position the baskets to catch the balls for different point values. Loads of fun for hours on a rainy day and, you’ll win the cool parent card.
Who’s Going With Us To The Movies?
The Bad Moms movie trailer was just released and it’s a brilliantly exaggerated take on the pressures we modern moms have placed on ourselves to do it all. We don’t know about you, but we’re making plans for a girls night out on July 29th in solidarity with moms everywhere who don’t quite make the PTA mom persona work on the regular – because perfection isn’t necessary, and we are pretty certain the movie will bring the laughs. Considering the writers are the same as those who wrote The Hangover, it’s a good bet. Add in Kristen Bell, Kathryn Hahn, Jada Pinkett Smith, Christina Applegate and Mila Kunis who are joining forces for the film and we’re all about it.
That’s What She Said
When you have a special needs child or a child who has an obvious difference that makes them stand out from their peers, it can result in some awkward moments for all involved. So the question is, how do we teach our kids and families how to communicate through those moments? One mom, who’s daughter has a skin condition recommends tackling it head on in the moment. She suggests, if your child makes an embarrassing statement like, “Why is that child (insert uncomfortable statement about appearance)?”, flipping the script to make it positive, while bringing that child into your child’s friendship circle. She encourages you to say, “Yes, look at that pretty little girl, doesn’t it look like she’s having fun here too? Let’s go say hi.” She makes the point that when you hide from the obvious, you actually make things worse. That being said, she hopes that conversations about differences happen in your home regularly so another child won’t be embarrassed, but accepted socially in spite of them.
Sometimes you look at your kids and you want to stop time. This new song Slow Down by Nichole Nordeman is making it’s rounds on Facebook, and it’s making us all ugly cry with the lyrics and imagery. She posted it mere days ago and it already has 9.9 million views. With lyrics like the below, it’s no wonder.
“Here’s to you
Every missing tooth
Every bedtime story
Here’s to Barbie cars, light saber wars
Sleeping in on Sunday
Had to crawl
Before you walked
Before you ran
Before I knew it
You were teaching me
The only thing love can
Hold hands through it
When it’s scary, you’ve got me”
You guys. If you haven’t listened and watched the video yet…just do it with tissue in hand. You’ve been warned.
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