About the state of maternity leave in the U.S. and how it needs an overhaul. There has been a lot of attention on the topic due to the fact that some moms are turning to crowdfunding in the hopes that they might afford to have some time off while they care for their newborns.
Why do I care?
This issue affects all parents and it’s key that you know your rights. There isn’t one standard across the board for U.S. maternity leave outside of the Family and Medical Leave Act – which can protect your position and allow for 12 weeks of unpaid leave. But, even this protection comes with several additional conditions attached to qualify. If you are not already aware, it’s important to find out what your employer will offer you in the way of job protection and paid/unpaid leave, if anything. Not all employers are created equal on the maternity leave front.
Tell me more.
There are many companies starting to turn the tide on the amount of time they are offering parents off for caring for their children in the way of paid leave, which is encouraging to parents everywhere – so not all is lost. If you find one of these companies to work for, consider sticking around for the duration if the rest is a good fit. Major props to Netflix, Spotify, Etsy and Facebook who offer maternal/paternal leave which ranges from four months to a year. We’re pretty proud of the U.S. Military as well, who recently doubled their paid leave from 6-weeks to 12-weeks. Progress is being made, and these organizations are leading the way.
That’s What She Said
We love a mom who tells it like it is and according to Sara Williams, a ‘perfect mom’ is the worst. She calls out modern day parenting pressures in this blog post and we dig it. All too often we parents feel the need to hide our own imperfections out of guilt. We struggle to keep up with what we perceive to be quality parenting and it’s unnecessary. Sara makes a valid point that it’s doing a disservice to our kids if we don’t let them see our imperfections so that they might embrace their own. She had us at goldfish crackers.
Put Your Best Foot Forward
A wise woman once told us to ‘never let the sun go down upon our anger’ and it stuck. Now, that may seem easier said than done when it comes to relationship tiffs, but when it relates to having a fight with our spouse in front of kids, studies show a positive increase in emotional security when the parents make an effort to hug it out and move on right after the fight – so we say it’s worth the effort if at all possible. Another thing worth noting, experts don’t recommend keeping your children protected from fights altogether, in fact, they think that is a bad strategy. Their recommendation is that parents who are having a disagreement should model restraint in their temper while working to a healthy resolution. So, go ahead and fight, just make sure to have a little smooch when you’re done.
You may have set some financial goals at the start of the year, and they’ve either gone by the wayside or you’re finding it tough to maintain. That’s where Amiyrah’s 30 days of Financial Affirmations come in – bookmark it and make reading each day a part of your morning coffee so you can get your head back in the financial game. They are simple ‘food for thought’ type reads, and they help to remove the power that money has over you so you can make sound decisions and get back on financial track. She’s an encouraging guide, with sound advice – we promise.
Parting Thought for the Day
Yes, snuggling with your ten year-old before they go to bed still matters to them. And, it matters to you, even though you are tired. Just do it.
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